| Maturity | Immaturity |
| Self control of thoughts and behavior. Is patient. | No control, self-indulgent and impatient. |
| Makes right choices in spite of feelings and urges. | Makes choices based on feelings. |
| Can admit their sins, fault and needs. | Seek to cover up their sins, faults and needs |
| Assumes responsibility for past, present and future changes. | Makes excuse and blames others. |
| Understands the need to operate in boundaries/limits/rules | Wants no limit or rules, and often considers themselves the "exception" to rules. |
| Surrender their expectations to God's plan, and are flexible and persevering. | Has rigid and unrealistic expectation, and to give up when things take too long or are too demanding. Refuse to cope. Throw tantrums. |
| Recognizes the need to depend on God, and to live a life of accountability to others in order to overcome the control of sin. Is willing to trust and risk. | Wants no accountability. Wants no dependence on God. Depends on own strategies and efforts to survive. Trust no one. |
| Committed and single-minded in purpose. The door of option to return to sexual sin is closed. | Double-minded. Serve two masters. The door of option is still partly open, and the person plans to go back to sexual sins if things "don't work out..." |
